Thursday, May 11, 2017

A Mother's Day Wish and Everyday Rambles

 I'm just popping in to say hello and
share some of my life ramblings.

It's been a very chilly week here.
The wood stove has been brought
back to life with cozy fires.
That's life in the mountains!

Other than it being very hard on my plants,
I don't mind. This Ohio born girl loves 
a cloudy day or five ;)

We have been busy this week preparing for our annual
spring jaunt to our Sugartree place in Ohio. 
We may be selling but our youngest daughter
and niece may rent it if we can work it out.
We have mixed feelings about that.
She'd be 1800 miles away.


How fitting that we get to see our 
Oklahoma kids and grandbabies
on Mother's Day. And then we travel to MO to see
our daughter and her new baby.
We're so excited to see them all!

Here are some Mother's Day flowers for all of you.
They are from the last year's gardens.
I haven't written much about everyday life for awhile.
I've been working on some crafts.
I will post some when I get back which won't be until June.
Last week, we helped watch our daughter's five
children while she and her husband flew to Virginia
for his grandfather's funeral. We had
such a fun time with them!

We attended a Kentucky Derby celebration at 
one of the restaurants where we sing. 
The owner is from Caintuck. 
It was AMAZING! So well done.
Decorations, games and a lovely buffet of
southern foods.
We have been playing music every Wednesday evening at a
little restaurant in the mountains. Last night was
the last evening of the season there. It was sad to leave it.
There are such wonderful regulars 
who come to listen. And those who work there 
are very gracious and helpful.

The Derby party was the official opening of the season at
the Foxfire, so we will be gathering there to share
our music through early fall.
Music! always MUSIC!
 I must go now and work on watering and packing.
It's been so nice to drop in. I will be 
coming by to visit you while I'm traveling.

What a lovely time to remember our Mothers.
Mine has been gone for many years and how I wish 
I could see her once again to 
honor and love on her just one more time.

I hope you're all well and that you have the 
most wonderful Mother's Day, 
feeling honored and treasured.

Thank you so much for your visit!
Tamara xo





Monday, May 8, 2017

Just Add Color ~

What a wonderful day it is.
Everything is not perfect but that just adds color.
How would would I know what was good if I didn't 
have anything to compare it to?


I can be among the... 

happy people

 by changing my focus which
changes my perspective which in turn, 
changes my thinking.

Sometimes, it takes some creative doing but if it
changes the color of my world, it's worth it.

Oh, I love this!

Color in a picture is like enthusiasm in life.
Vincent Van Gogh
Color! 
What a deep and mysterious language. 
The color of dreams~
Paul Guaguin
  Since the patina that occurs in our life is from our own
handprints, we wouldn't want to alter it.

But everyone needs a little splash of color now and then.
It sometimes comes through change. 
From external circumstances or something
of our own choosing.
It charges us and can re-fire our creativity.

It can be subtle or like a huge watercolor painting
that takes up a lot of room in your heart or home.
 I add color to my life every day by listening to
and playing music. Music is full of color!
Every color that you could possibly imagine.
People experiences and gratitude can add such rich
color to our lives. 
Color evokes emotions that move us and touch
in so many ways. It can inspire and encourage
or take our breath away with it's beauty.

Yesterday, we visited our daughter that lives 
in a group home. We had a lovely, long visit with her. 
When we left, the blues of missing her were splashed
over with the cheery colors of bright pinks, yellows, and
oranges with a mix of white!
~HAPPINESS~


Soon, I'll be leaving to see some of our 
children and grandchildren. Being with them
will brush vibrant, magical colors 
onto the mural of my life, adding yet 
another layer to my story!

The beautiful greens of the east will
take me back to my childhood days 
and will warm my heart with the memories
of my past.

What will you be doing to add color to your life?
I wish you joyous times filled 
with rich, colorful memories.

Thank you for coming by~
Please let me know that you were here and I'll
come by and say hello!

Tamara
XO





Wednesday, May 3, 2017

The Decision to Take Care of Ourselves And Then.... the Journey

Taking care of oneself may seem like a 
natural and easy thing to do for some. 
And having to make a conscious decision 
to do so may seem ridiculous.

(I'm talking about much more than 
just the basics of
 eating and sleeping and general care.)


But for others, including myself, 
it truly is a journey of
self-discovery and recovery. 
It's a learning process
that happens only if we are 
willing to peel off layers
of wrong thinking, work at
 getting to know ourselves
as well as making changes.
It would take a small book to share
with you the revelations that have come from 
seeking to take better care of  myself..
well-being and a healthier,
more balanced lifestyle.

I used to think that I was healthy.
Several years ago, I came to a place in my life
where I felt numb. I had died inside
and I knew that if I wanted my 
life to be different,
I was going to have to accept boundaries
and live more intentionally.
(I don't mean to sound snooty)
I needed to begin to stand up for myself
and stop making commitments that were
helpful to others but that left me feeling exhausted
and drained physically and mentally.


This was difficult because I love people and
helping them.  But I had to come to realize that
I could still love them but I didn't have to
push myself beyond healthy limits to show that love.
I was saying no to outside commitments at times and
that was good but I wasn't considering limiting
 social outings or time with family as part 
of my care. 

Two years ago, I realized what a 
true introvert was and that I am one and that
it's ok to be one! Haha..

And furthermore, it was ok to fashion my time and 
life in a way that allowed me the solitude that 
I needed to stay rested and to feel like 
my life was not out of control. 
I don't LIKE this about myself but I'm 
grateful to have the understanding.

It's so freeing to be able to make 
decisions based on my needs 
without (most of the time ;) feeling guilty.

Can anyone relate to what I'm saying?
I have learned that I'm not selfish but wise
when I say no to invitations to social events.
Not answering the phone is ok if I'm not up to talking
at that moment. Responding to social media in 
a time frame when I feel rested and can enjoy the
connection is the right way for me.
Learning to listen to our minds and bodies 
and to be able to respond to what we hear, is a gift. 
It requires focus at times and honesty
with ourselves and others.  
People don't always understand. 
My test run circumstance did not end well.
There were broken relationships
and a severing of ties.
It's very sad but I am healthier.

Be prepared and take care of yourself anyway.
If you don't, who will?

This is one of the 
toughest parts of our journey. We don't
want to offend or hurt others. There are always
going to be needs. We can't begin to meet them all.

I was raised to work.
And the harder I worked and the more I accomplished,
the more I was praised. I can tell you that this
set me up for a life time of pleasing others
and totally losing touch with who I was 
or what my needs (and wants) were.
I don't dread telling people no anymore. It
feels good to take care of myself. I enjoy life
soooo much more. The quality
of each experience has been heightened
to the pleasure that it should be because
I have learned to pace myself and reserve what I need
to really be present and enjoy that time. Not wishing that the time
were over so that I can go home and rest.

If you're in need, I hope this has helped 
and made sense to you.
Life is too short and our bodies and minds
have limitations. If we ignore this fact, 
we can do irreversible damage to our bodies
and lose out on the quality of 
life that awaits 
each of us.
There's so much more to it all. 
But too much to write in one post. 
At another time, I would like to write
about the things that we have and how they
demand of us.

(This is a huge one for me and I'm still working on it!

And then beyond our needs are our wants... 
which I would also like to write about another time.)

We have only one life to live.
One time around.
A limited existence with so much to experience.
May yours be blessed. 
Filled with richness and peace.

Thank you for your visit.
I would love to hear any words of advice or 
any stories of what you've learned.

Tamara xo